About one year ago today (I think May 27), this corner of the blogosphere lost one of its prominent members. Anne Marie in Philly (aka Warrior Queen aka Carebear aka AM aka Anne Marie Gunther) died suddenly. Usually “died suddenly” is a polite euphemism for “committed suicide”, but I doubt that was the case here. I am not sure of the cause of death, and it is none of my business, but Anne Marie had been suffering poor health in the months leading up to her death, and my suspicion is that they led to a medical emergency.
Anne Marie was known for her political opinions, knitting, surviving cancer, surviving a bad first marriage, fierce loyalty to her ingroup, appreciation of hirsute ginger men, allyship to the LGBTQ+ community, and dainty ladylike demeanor. In addition to being a prolific commenter she had her own blog at From My Brain to My Mouth. Her sudden death shocked the community. Tributes to her rolled in. I have compiled the ones I know of in this post. No doubt I have missed several; if you know of others feel free to add them in the comments (but be aware that WordPress marks any comment with multiple links as spam, so you may want to put at most one link per comment).
Memorials are a funny thing. Some people get many memorials. Others get none. Memoraials tend to fade over time. I expect a few people will post about Anne Marie on this anniversary, but I expect that fewer will commemorate her next year. Four years from now many of our blogs will probably be defunct. Nine years from now I worry some of these bloggers will also be defunct (although I hope this is not the case). There is a platitude that says that Anne Marie is not gone so long as she is remembered, but that just delays the inevitable. We all fade away, and life goes on for those left behind. This is an artifact documenting that, at one point, Anne Marie was remembered.
This listing is not in any particular order, other than Todd’s entry.
Memorials Soon After Anne Marie Died
Todd at arteejee: Saturday Morning Post: To My Dearest Friend
John at Going Gently: Anne Marie
Ron at Retired in Delaware: Anne Marie of Philly Warrior Queen
1st Man at Two Men and a Little Farm: The Loss of Anne Marie in Philly
Dave at Riding On: Eternal
Maddie at A Day with the Mistress Borghese: Into the Fabulon
Urspo at Spo-Reflections: Threnody for a Warrior Queen
Bob at I Should Be Laughing: Goodbye My Friend
Debra at She Who Seeks: “Saturday Night Protest Party”
Jay at WickedHamster: Sadness
David at The Adventures of Travel Penguin: Sunday Sadness and Five Lessons
Jennifer at Sparrow Tree Journal: Saturday stuff
Sixpence at (Lo) Imprescindible: She Hated Nazis
Michael at My Secret Journey: I Have No Words for This, But I’ll Try
JM at Open a Window: So Shines A Good Deed
Robzilla at I Hit Midlife, Is This My Crisis?: A Saturday Night Wake/Dance Party
Mr Shife at Confessions of a Dumb, White Guy: Random Acts of Shifeness – June Updates
Fearsome and Shawn at Fearsome Beard wrote many tributes over the year. Some are here and some are in the next section.
Reminders of Anne Marie
Throughout the year circumstances or belongings prompted several people to remember Anne Marie. Here is a selection of their posts:
Fearsome and Shawn posted about Anne Marie several times:
- Saturday Night Dance Party
- A post dedicated to Anne Marie in Philly
- What would Anne Marie in Philly say?
- Saturday Night Protest Party
Uptonking at Wonderland Burlesque remembered Anne Marie several times as he reviewed alternative recordings of pop songs: Who Did It Better? Swayin’ To The Music (Slow Dancing), Who Did It Better? The Loco-motion
Sixpence dedicated his post Mayor Pete to Anne Marie.
Dr Spo received a posthumous birthday card: Curious things about the house #73
Michael reread one of Anne Marie’s old comments: Three Months Later.
Of course, this corner of the blogosphere did not just lose Anne Marie. Her husband Todd (aka RTG aka arteejee) died on Jan 25. Todd’s sister-in-law announced his death in the comments of his blog. He was also in poor health, suffered a fall, and then his heart gave out.
There were fewer memorials to Todd, and it is unfair to include them here as opposed to their own post, but that’s the way it goes.
Maddie from A Day With the Mistress Borghese: Arteejee
Sean from Idle Eyes and a Dormy: Unmotivated but moving along
Urspo from Spo-reflections: Spo-reflections on a Saturday Shingles Shot
Let’s close with some music videos, in the spirit of Saturday Night Dance/Protest Parties.
Although Anne Marie loved much of the music from the 1970s, she disliked ABBA. This has turned into a bit of an in-joke amongst those who remember her. I appreciate the joke but I feel that forever associating Anne Marie with ABBA is unfair. She liked all kinds of music, and if she happened to exercise improper taste with respect to a famous disco group, then so what? There was a lot of other music to choose from.
RTG posted “Time” by the Alan Parsons Symphonic Project a couple of times following Anne Marie’s death. I have been listening to it a lot this year.
Anne Marie posted Aretha Franklin’s “Respect” in one of her final dance parties. It wasn’t 70s disco but reflects how many in the community felt about her: