Toaster Oven

A little while ago my toaster oven stopped working. Now, I know what you are thinking, and you’re mostly correct: I cannot really cook, and it is foolish to for anybody to let me near a kitchen. Compared to me Mitchell is the head chef at a three-star Michelin restaurant. (You’re right. I shouldn’t exaggerate. A one-star Michelin restaurant for certain, though.) Nonetheless, I am a Poor, and when you are a Poor you learn how to put together meals sooner or later, or you go very very hungry. So I was baking potatoes and my toaster oven was working, and then I was baking potatoes and it wasn’t.

Now, I know what you are thinking, and you are right about that too. I don’t own a toaster oven. The oven in question is an appliance in the house where I am renting a room, and thus it does not belong to me. That made its unfortunate demise all the more distressing.

Now, I know what you are thinking, and this time you are wrong. I never received a toaster oven, either for being recruited or for recruiting others. Truth be told, I am not even clear on the rules around this, so I knew it was time for some Internet Research.

Internet Research concludes that the toaster oven meme is Ellen’s fault. (Are we still allowed to talk about Ellen? I thought she was cancelled?) The website womansplains that the toaster oven was a recruiting prize for Ellen’s friend Susan, during the famous coming out episode of the sitcom. This website includes a standalone (!) MP4 of the episode. Melissa Etheridge makes Ellen sign a bunch of papers to register as a gay, and then Susan receives a toaster oven. This explanation answers many mysteries, but prompts more:

  • Are toaster ovens just for lesbians?
  • Where does one download or otherwise obtain this paperwork?
  • How does one arrange for Melissa Etheridge to file the aforementioned paperwork for you?

There are, however, other explanations for this practice. For one thing, people mix up toasters with toaster ovens. For another, some people interpret the meme as allegorical; once you have been toasted you can never be plain bread again. It might also have something to do with the prizes banks occasionally award for opening an account.

It may be the case that toaster ovens are SUPPOSED to be just for lesbians, but as always, gay males have engaged in cultural appropriation. By 2010 Bob from I Should Be Laughing was awarding a toaster oven to Ricky Martin. This is bizarre in a number of different ways. First of all, why does Bob have a warehouse full of toaster ovens? Secondly, in the Ellen episode the toaster oven went to Susan, who was doing the recruiting. Now it appears we are awarding toaster ovens to the recruited? That seems like a lot of toaster ovens. No wonder the thrift stores are full of them.

I have to wonder whether modern recruitment gifts have evolved since 1997. There are a lot more kitchen gadgets available now. Perhaps modern recruiters receive air fryers? Instant pots? Some part of me hopes that the rewards are tangible and not just Amazon gift cards. On the other hand the question may be moot; thanks to Lesbian Erasure I am guessing the recruitment rates for lesbians are worse than the Jehovah’s Witnesses. (We can all hope that they are more successful than the Shakers.)

In my case things worked out okay. I was planning to venture to the thrift store to buy a replacement, but then one of my housemates (who is mechanically/electrically inclined) got fed up and just fixed the thing. So I can once again burn potatoes, to the chagrin of all those I live with.

13 thoughts on “Toaster Oven

  1. Ellen did not invent the toaster oven meme. It existed long before and yes, only in the lesbian community (you’re right that gay men have now appropriated it). When a lesbian “recruits” a straight woman and brings her out, the recruiter gets the toaster oven, not the recruitee (her gift is fabulous lesbian sex). MY toaster oven is still working fine, thank you very much. And don’t worry about so-called “Lesbian Erasure” — there’s still plenty of fab woman-on-woman action going on!

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    1. I suspected it was older, but I could not find any references to prior art. Just how much earlier do you recall it?

      Is it fair to say that Ellen made the joke famous, or was it well-known before?

      I am surprised you only have one toaster oven.


      1. I first heard the expression in the early 90s. It may be older than that though — probably took a while to make its way to the LGBTQ backwater of Winnipeg. This joke was well known in the lesbian community, so all Ellen did was make it well known to straight people and gay men (who would have known it already if they paid any attention to lesbians, which of course most gay men don’t). And yes, I have only one toaster oven. Straight women take a lot of work, man. A LOT. And married straight women are nothing but Trouble with a Capital T, so I was never so foolhardy as to recruit one of those.


  2. Oh, About time. You are taking your time to post, right, young man?
    And I had no idea about the toaster (thanks, Debra, for the clarification, though!). And yes, Ellen is semi-cancelled. That sweet façade was not gonna last forever.
    As for the confusion with toaster ovens, I’m with you. I can’t cook to save my life and only recently learned what a convection oven was. Don’t get me started with air fryers.
    And I didn’t get anything?

    Hello? Customer service?



    1. In order to qualify it looks as if you have to convert a straight person. Surely you have never slept with a straight person?

      If being grouchy is grounds for cancellation then I have been cancelled many times over.


      1. But of course I’ve bedeed many ‘straight’ men who have kept coming back for more. We all make mistakes.
        So I think I qualify.
        And Ellen was not only grouchy: she was a nightmare. The complaints go back YEARS.



  3. I stop by regularly hoping you are posting. I was delighted to see you did so
    On this day of Thanksgiving I wanted to say I am thankful you are part of my life/a blogger buddy.


  4. I just saw the words “toast” and “oven”, both make my heart sing as long as someone else is doing the toasting and ovening. I don’t think the latter is even a word.
    Good to see you back Lurker.
    JP x


    1. You know, I have not even thought about how you feeding yourself these days. I hope you are managing to eat okay these days.

      It is really nice to have you commenting again, too.


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