Homosexual Holy Day

People think that Halloween is the holiest holiday in the LGBTQ+ calendar, but this is not correct. Today is the holiest day, and I almost missed it. Today is National Coming Out of Homosexuality Day, which according to Life Site News was founded in 1995 by ex-gay advocate Michael Johnston. (Ordinarily I would point backgrounder links at Wikipedia, but in this case both of these topics are MYSTERIOUSLY ABSENT.)

National Coming Out of Homosexuality Day celebrates former homosexuals. Finding official pages about the holiday is difficult because they are also MYSTERIOUSLY ABSENT from my search results, but according to third party reports Coming Out of Homosexuality Day honors the changed lives of thousands of men and women who formerly identified themselves as gay. Once upon a time people of alternative sexualities had little vocabulary to describe themselves. Even lesbians called themselves “gay”. Now, thanks to decades of LGBTQ+ activism, we have a rainbow of labels to plaster on ourselves, from “twinks” to “demisexuals” to the ever popular “heteroflexible”. We are no longer limited to putting ourselves in the stifling box of “gay”.

But Coming Out of Homosexuality Day has a more serious purpose. Do you know of people who are struggling with their homosexuality? There are many resources on the internet you can point them to. Exodus has rebranded itself as Changed Movement, a “community of friends who once identified as LGBTQ+”. You can take a Journey into Manhood on the Brothers Road (formerly known as “peoplecanchange.org”). Then of course there is Focus on the Family, which has a phenomenal Frequently Asked Questions section, which you should all read even if you are not struggling with same sex attraction (hi Deedles!).

Honestly, the Frequently Asked Questions page makes for fascinating reading. If your mind has been poisoned by the liberal sex radical Dan Savage, this is the perfect antidote. Savage frequently counsels callers who struggle with visiting their religious parents over the (straight people) holidays, but have you ever considered the other side? The advice from the anti-Savage is both what I was expecting, and not what I was expecting at all.

The ex-gay movement gets a bad rap these days. For example, the aforementioned Michael Johnston got into trouble when it was revealed he was having unprotected hookups with men (and possibly infecting men with HIV in the process). Any number of ex-gay leaders subsequently dropped out of the movement and turned homosexual again. But I have more than a little sympathy for it, and not just because I am a self-loathing homosexual. I’m not on board for the Jesus stuff (more’s the pity), but I honestly think that more than a few of the advocates most involved in the movement acted out of love, not hate. I listened to a series of interviews with former Exodus leader Alan Chambers. There is no question that Exodus and its brethren have caused harm to many, many people. There is no question that some people in the movement were (and are) cynical fundraisers preying on people’s ignorance and fears. But from listening to Chambers’s interviews, and from associated with some mild homophobes in my own social circles, I do not feel our demonization of them is accurate. (I also feel that if bisexuals exist they have a lot to answer for, but that is neither here nor there.)

Furthermore I think that the techniques they use to lure self-loathing homosexuals work because they reflect some of the actual struggles gay people face. Furthermore, I think that gays inflict some of these struggles on each other (Grindr, anyone?). None of us want to admit this (victim blaming!) but I see evidence of it all over the blogosphere.

Although National Coming Out of Homosexuality Day is not widely remembered, I think it is important. It is important to understand what people thought and felt in the bad old days when stores did not festoon themselves with Pride flags. It is important to understand the humanity of those who went through the ex-gay movement and those who cling to it still. History repeats itself, and we have new targets now (transpeople, drug addicts, sex workers), and when the liberal media shoves this stuff down the memory hole then we lose something important.

So Happy Coming Out of Homosexuality Day, everyone. I hope you have a joyful celebration, and you don’t let the spectre of National Coming Out Day* tomorrow hang over you too heavily. (But Steven should still come out to his high school friend and his uncle whether he wants to or not.)

* Oh look. National Coming Out Day is on Wikipedia. How mysterious.

22 thoughts on “Homosexual Holy Day

  1. Hahahahaha
    You are funny.
    Oh, Lurkie. There’s no such thing as ex-homosexuals. You either like dick or not. The poor, poor, debased and tortured souls of the men (and women) in the ex-gay movement simply do not act on what their nature craves. It’s a very special kind of torture that only the most twisted (And greedy) souls can take.
    The fact is, most ex-gays go back to doing what they were doing BEFORE they became ex-gays: being gay. Also, many of these men and women are basically tortured bisexuals Who try to use their ability to relate to both genders to sell their snake oil.
    Our demonization of ex-gays is accurate and rightly deserved. they should be ridiculed and shunned. In my book they’re categorized only slightly below closeted gay Republicans.
    I know, I’m being nice.

    Smooches!

    XoXo

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    1. Boy, you are going to be ticked off when you discover I am a homocon.

      It is in my nature to crave carbs and sweets. Refraining from such things is not in my nature and I suffer terribly, but it is better for me overall.

      I do not think I will ever be on the same page as you with respect to ex-gays. A lot of them seem like genuinely good people who did a lot of genuinely bad things in the name of righteousness.

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      1. Homocons should not be fucked. By anyone. Ever.
        Candy and dick are not the same thing, dear. Otherwise you’d see more men sucking lollipops all over. Sex is a drive. Candy is a preference. Denying yourself candy is healthy. Denying yourself sex is torture.
        Ex gays are some of the worst people on earth. Their holier than thou attitude is not reserved to themselves, as it should be, but they feel the need to impose on others others the same misery they feel. Met they forever burn in the hell they believe in. And some, I guess, are good people.

        Smooches!

        XoXo

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  2. Hi. This gave me a headache! I think that I’m going to come out as a nonsexual married to a oversexual (for his age). We meet in the middle and leave everybody else alone. Speaking of which, leave Steven alone!

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    1. Uh oh. Sorry I gave you a headache.

      How is the no-carb ordeal going? Are you adjusting?

      Yes, I should stop picking on poor Steven. One day things will blow up and then I will leave him alone.

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      1. The no carb thing is going okay. I’ve had no sweets for quite sometime and I’m actually starting to lose weight. For my weight I now should be about six-four. Before I should’ve been six-six 🙂
        I have no right to tell you to leave Steven alone. I believe it makes him feel loved. Hugs to you, Lurkster.

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        1. I hope you and Balder Half have a good time camping this weekend. Say hello to the wildlife for me.

          Being without carbs is awful but I want you to be healthy too.

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          1. Awwww. The camping trip has been canceled so I guess we’re going to have to create our own semi-wildlife for the next three days. What to do, what to do?

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            1. Grab BH and hit the gay bars? You can go dancing! See a drag show! Ride a zipline! Live! Live! Life is a banquet, and some sorry sons of bitches are starving!

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              1. Had to bring up banquets and starving, not to mention sorry s.o.b.s , didn’t you? Now, where did I put that celery stick?

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                1. Live! Live! Life is a salad bar with no croutons or creamy dressings or pasta, and some sorry sons of bitches are picky eaters!

                  Welp, at least I don’t have to worry about being called thoughtful or sweet any more. I really blundered into that catchphrase.

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  3. Hell, it’s like the leopards don’t change their spots saying. Once you suck dick, you always suck a dick. And Halloween isn’t the holiest day of the calendar for us?!?!?!?!? WHAT?

    Steven has be quite lately. He must be getting reflective again, or secretly getting dick on the side.

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    1. The liberal sex-radical Dan Savage says that Halloween is for straight people, actually.

      Supposedly, poor Steven has been quiet because the internet has been out at his farm. Supposedly.

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  4. I feel bad for self-hating “ex-gays.” They are missing all the joy of life. Life is too short on this earth to spend it hating who you are, especially when there is no need to do so.

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    1. I spend a lot of time hating myself too, although I am not (yet?) an ex-gay.

      I think some ex-gays were forced into the lifestyle out of fear. But I think there is another breed of them that joined because they saw a higher purpose in their religion than in having sex.

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  5. Well everyone knows I’m certainly not getting any (bleep) so it must be the internet. Another good one Lurky, as usual. I would love to dump all over your posts but I always enjoy them. I didn’t know you are a self loathing homo, I thought you were out blah blah blah.

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    1. One can be out of the closet AND self-loathing. The two are not mutually exclusive. But I plead guilty: I am not as out of the closet as I ought to be. (It is not as if I am fooling anybody, though.)

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