So May 7 is supposedly International Tell Your Crush Day. Is it just me, or does this seem like a well-intentioned bad idea? No good can come of it. Either I get rejected gently (“That’s very flattering, but I don’t think of you in that way”) or the rejections are more forceful (running away screaming, restraining orders, etc). Telling one’s crushes about feelings seems like an excellent way to end friendships and cause a lot of awkwardness.
The claim is that if I do not inform my crushes of that status then they will not know. Hogwash. Either they can use their psychic powers to sense that I am crushing on them, or it is probably for the best that they not know. It is shameful enough to have crushes. Acting on them would be debaucherous. Suppressing one’s feelings never did anybody any harm, other than crushing depression and/or dying lonely and alone.
By my count I have informed crushes of my feelings 1.5 times in my life. One of those times resulted in my first and only consummated relationship, which ended up causing a lot of hurt to the other party. The other half admission made things awkward (but in my defence it was a forced admission). This is not a good track record. But hey! If you have social connections to burn go right ahead and be honest about your feelings. What’s the worst that could go wrong?